I am sure what I am talking about as this is a very painful subject for us. I need the help of this presentation myself. I am the worst at coming to grips with this. G-d vomits at porn, and when I used to be hooked I remember G-d telling me that he hated porn as much as I hated the dry heaves I was having. I was in essence making G-d Vomit!
note if your porn is DID related or you think it is related please see the DID section after reading this
First do you want help? If you don't no program or anyone will help you break the habit. This is not a program anyway as it is not one size fits all. This is a way of help to those who want it. However you must want it . If you say I don't have a problem I only look at a little porn I am not addicted that would be fine by the worlds standard but the Standard is Christ. I appeal to you to do it for the souls that are addicted before you become one of them yourself. I am a true believer you say I have self control when I do it.
I say that if that is your attitude than you are in danger and I hope you don't fall in. Fall in to the abyss that is porn but for the grace of G-d go I. Please if you are looking at porn and even if you are not a believer do me the kindness of reading this presentation
I hope when I finish this presentation that the phrase no man standing applies to you I hope you are on your knees in prayer of repentance to our heavenly father and asking the Lord Jesus to forgive you if you are entangled in this sin.I am starting with the most important things first. We who are believers our walk with God is greatly quenched with this vileness. It kills our time with God. It kills our authority at the throne. It is hard to think God will answer prayer when we are addicted to porn. Almost as important and maybe even more impacting is the family.
The marriage bed suffers when we do porn which most of the time involves physical release, and our family suffers. Our testoterone surges and we really feel like real man right?? Wrong. If you are believer and you have been purchased for him and are failing in this you feel lower, to coin my stepdads phrase, than whale hockey.
It can actually kill the marriage. A real woman can never measure up in our mind to the porno star. Sometimes we seek satisfaction outside of the marriage. Even if we do it, is not enough. Hell is never satified and neither is the porn addict that leaves the marriage bed for a fantasy woman. She doesn't satisfy either because the real woman he left his real covenant one for is not the fantasy in his mind.
It kills the lost when we act like this we don't want to witness or work for the Lord. It can destroy your children. I started my descent into the abyss of porn with porno magazines in camper by my house at 14 years old. It greatly impacts your sexual desire and sometimes sends the body into sexual overload I don't mean like awesome sex or even excessive sex with a spouse but in a bad way where you can not even function.
A man opens a porn magazine and begins to read and look and
lust after the pictures. It has been 3 hours whew I really need
some more before I drag myself to work. At work, Your
performance is very lousy I do not know what got into you. If you
keep this up I will have no choice but to let you go.
Is
this you friend? I hope not.
Maybe this is you,
Wow your are a great asset to this company. You know if you
came to a few managers' training with me I might convince
them to make you a manager.
You are told the first
training starts Monday night at 6pm and can you be there. Sure
you say and head home. It is Monday night at 4:00 pm. Hmmm it
only takes an hour to the get to the training in heavy traffic.
Well I will be a manager soon. The wife is not home yet you are
all alone MAYBE I will catcha quicky
. It it is taking a
long time to load you tell yourself. 5:00 that wasn't enough
maybe one more quick one. at 5:30 you head out the door well if
traffic is good I will still make that meeting. Traffic is heavy
and you make it to the meeting at 6:15. You lose your promotion.
Brother I hope this is not you.
You are all alone your
family is asleep your wife was tired and your have the internet
in front of you. You look up your favorite porn site. It is about
9:30 pm you have a big day at work tomorrow and a lot of catchup
to do the big guns are in. You decide you will go an hour early.
it is 11:30 and you are looking at a 3 hour video. You are about
ready to get intense. Suddenly you hear Dad whats that you are
looking at?
Startled you immediately hit the close on the
browser. I was scared and I wanted you to pray with me
.
You turn to go pray with your 9-11 year old boy not answering his
question The next day as you arrive dragging to work at the
regular time, Your son sick with the flu gets on the internet. OH
NO!! in your haste you forgot to delete the history. FRIEND
G-d forbid this is you! The cycle starts again..
72 million: The approximate number of unique visitors to adult websites in 2006, per month, worldwide. 420 million: Total number of porn pages. 40 million: The number of U.S. adults who regularly visit porn websites.[72 million times 12 = almost a 1/4 of the earths population in one year]
* In a survey of over 500 Christian men at a men's retreat, over 90% admitted that they were feeling disconnected from God because lust, porn, or fantasy had gained a foothold in their lives. As reported in an article on Pastors.com by Kenny Luck.Are you crying yet?, we are robbing God of evangelism and our lives of his power!
Finally is the impact on the next generation. I am grieved that this industry preys on the young. They name their sites things like Whitehouse.com, Nasa.com, etc.. They go to court because someone sues and good they did, but it is too late another generation has been introduced to porn.
* 39 million homes receive the adult channels in scrambled form, while the number of children with potential exposure to such images is about 29 million Morality Continues to Decay. Barna Research Group, November 3, 2003
Wow you say this is hard to take. It would be harder to take that we caused our family to be lost do to our example and even our own souls
OK on to the victory part. Please understand that there is not a cookie cutter fix. You will have to see what works for you. However I know that all success will come from a few basic understandings. I will list them then go into details on each one.
I bet you wondered why I did not mention a porn filter? Because as it is now the adult stores are very accessible and if you are desperate you might end up there. No the desire for porn, not just access at home to it, must be broken. I have been in situation when I was still recovering. I had the filter at home and did not take cash with me so I would not go to a store but the porn was at my friend's house. I fell and ended up going to the store anyway
By all means use a filter if you have one but don't rely on it to break the hold see the resources section in this presentation. Accountability is more important than a filter
Confession because he who confesses and forsakes his sin shall find mercy. How can I repent if I am addicted you say? In order to forsake the sin there must be repentance. Do you want to be free than get rid off all pornography in your home and anywhere else you keep it. It won't last you say I will fall again. Well shame on you but if you do the shame you feel I felt before more like my heart broke in two. I wanted to be pleasing to Jesus, and I knew he wasn't pleased with this at all.
You need someone not in porn to be an accountability partner and a support to you. Someone who will not baby you and is a strong believer and not your spouse though they can help and should be included in the process if they are aware of the problem. A brother if you are a man, and a sister if you are a woman
It has to cost you something if you fail. I do not speak of a
way to earn forgiveness that is not biblical but a penalty for
transgression regardless of how you feel whether you feel
guilty or not. I tried many things as a penalty but the most
effective was fasting and even total abstinence from technology
for a time. Maybe it will have to be something else for you.
Prayer and experimenting will give you the answer.
Possibly the most important is the new mindset PS 51 style repentance confession and forsaking but King David knew that wasn't enough wash me and cleanse me OH Lord renew a right Spirit within me Why the most important ??? I think it is because until we take and see the sin like He sees it we will not change
All other things can be present including a porn filter and a support and accountability group even a desire to quit but you will not succeed until you change your mindset!!
The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. It is war, and for your victory it never hurts to bring in the backbone of the Spirit, prayer warriors Also they may see in the spirit if you fall even if you are too ashamed to tell anyone if they know to pray to begin with. That doesn't mean we who are the problem don't pray just that we get spiritual reinforcements. We need to pray much prayer ourselves
If you fall get back up and do not quit your soul and walk with God is at stake. Be patient with your self but not tolerant. By all means clear yourself from the bondage but know just because you fell back doesn't mean you lost the war . It does mean you lost this battle and must prepare better to win the next one. If you do not have patience you will give up.
Not just any word but the Word, God's Word. We filled our mind with filth now to cleanse the filth we must have the washing of the water by the word Also included is the Word specifically dealing with porn. It is going to hurt and yes it is unpleasant but so was Calvary . It will hurt because it is a sword and you are being sliced to bits, but God heals. More resources on the Word later
For without faith it is impossible to please God. You need to
confess with your mouth It is written. I am more than a
conqueror I am free. He whom the Son has set free is free
indeed.
This can be hard you don't feel very free when
entangled in this vile sin. Faith is the substance of things
hoped for the evidence of things not seen. If you fall, still
confess I am child of God I don't have to view
pornography
If you fall confess and repent that is confess.
Rejoice not against me my enemy for when I fall I will arise,
I will bear the indignation of the Lord until he arise and pleads
my cause !
I did not start to win until I did these
things
This is serious if you do not have a warrior's desire to see it through you will fail. You must fight the devil will not give up easy. Allow God to "brake" you tell Him you want to please Him and ask him for strength and self control. Brake is spelled that way because without spiritual breaking we can not put the brakes on this and will go over the cliff
Is your solution working if not adjust fire as they say in the
military. I know it may sound strange but this battle is not a
minor one and a must win situation. I know one thing that helped
me was taking authority over my flesh in the name of Jesus and
saying flesh hear the word of the Lord.
Another thing that
will help regardless of the technique that is working for you is
casting down imaginations bring your thoughts under control not
tolerating your mind to think about porn except that it is vile
filth.
Are you free now and were reading this out of curiosity than please help someone these things will work and have worked and will continue to work. Please see the resources section
All champions have a plan to achieve their goals. One thing is we need the whole armorer of God to stand against this wile of the devil. The bible says faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. So, in order to get the shield of faith to quench the fiery darts we need the Sword working right. Well we have technology what I found really works is playing the word of the Lord dealing with pornography over and over again and addressing myself by name.
You did it you are free and the desire for this sin is gone help your brother See my petition on care2 I have started a petitioned to have all porn sites adult content register under .prn or .porn. Why not just have it abolished ? This is America If I move to do that than the law will also work its way to us who worship the Lord. How can we the church expect the world to change? When Messiah returns it will happen but unless the majority in this Country is Reverencing Him in truth it will only harm the gospel to try and change the country. We the church need to get sin out of our lives and the Lord will worry about the World
This petition will protect the all rights of all involved. It is not the best solution, but the best solution I don't believe will be attainable until the church regains the power at the throne we need!
Note Accountability Partner and the software for it is much more important than the filter. a person you are accountable to Not a spouse if possible but your spouse should be aware you have this accountability if he or she is aware of the problem.